Two Under Two. Tips and Tricks

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I can’t even begin to tell you how many times people ask me “How do you do it?”

My answer is usually “Lots of patience and love”.

While that is true, we have a pretty regimented life. I am a stay at home mom  while my DH works night. I HAVE to keeps all my ducks in a row or it will just be pure chaos.  Two under two is not for the faint of heart. You learn so much more than you ever thought possible, and it almost hurts how much you can love two little babies at one time!

Planning on “Baby bunching”? Found yourself Pregnant 8 months after your first birth, like me? I am 10 months in now, and I have to share some of the things that just get you through your day-to-day life!

I hope it helps! I am sure I will come back and add more in a few months since the babies are always changing…

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Order Diapers and Wipes online

freeshippingI use Target.com with my Red card, and I get free shipping, but  there are TONS of other options! AmazonFamily, Amazon Prime, Diapers.com <<, Just to name a few.  I never did it with BK#1, but a month or so after BK#2 came along I found out that I could order diapers with no shipping with my Red card. It is seriously the best thing ever, and eliminates the extra trip because you forgot about opening the last pack of diapers. Seriously, diapers at your doorstep! Now if I could only train the post man to leave the box and back away quietly……

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The schedule that you make will change because of feedings, diaper blow-outs, meltdowns, the end of the world, and ya know pretty much anything. I have found that being able to tell BK#1 what is going to happen next and reminding her of her day to day activities grounds her and helps her feel like she is in control.

 

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If your child isn’t ready and not even interested, don’t sweat it. I introduced it pretty young with BK#1 but didn’t start making it a regular and consistent thing until she was around 2, and it has been pretty impossible. It never fails every time I sit down to nurse BK#2,  finally get him asleep, or I have him in the bath and she is gated in her room that she will holler “Mommyyy potty!!” Better yet BK#1 crawling through an accident that you didn’t know existed until you bend down to pick him up…….

 

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When I was around five months pregnant I un-boxed the baby swing, pack n play, changing table etc. I wanted her to get used things that were not hers, and not only not hers, but she was not allowed to touch. It didn’t totally eliminate her pushing on the swing when he was in it, or trying to see over the pack n play edge, but it certainly started the communication early. She was very aware of “ Only for baby” ,  “Very gentle” , and “Be careful” way before there was even a baby in the gear.

 

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imagesBIZZSE10Baby gear is pretty bulky, and I tried my hardest not to have double of everything! For example: We transitioned into a booster seat instead of using the high chair, to conserve space. Another item that we started transitioning out of was the binky. We didn’t completely take it away, but it was no longer anywhere but her bed. We did it for a lot of reasons, but mostly to make it as easy as possible when she saw her baby brother with one. When it was time to get rid of it completely it really wasn’t a huge deal, thankfully!

 

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I know some people can’t because of their backs, or just don’t chose to because they feel it is “babying and spoiling your child” when you carry a toddler. I will tell you that wearing my toddler has seriously saved my sanity. If you don’t already have one get a soft structured carrier or wrap and start putting that baby on your back! Your toddler needs to feel special and close to you too, and it is seriously the easiest way to do just that. Even if you hand the carrier to your DH when he is heading out to rake leaves, I promise your toddler will be calmer and you will have a lot more hair on your head.

Don’t know how?

I pretty much taught myself how with youtube videos! I will link a good one below for you. It looks a littler awkward, and takes practice to do alone, but its worth it.

** She is going a little slower than you normally would to show steps…..

Wrapyouinlove.com is a great resource for tutorials and BabyWearing Education, if you need more info!

 

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Okay, so I am a little back and forth on the topic of baby monitors. I think they are essential to get things done while the babies are sleeping, but we had a video monitor with BK#1 and I made a horrible habit of getting her way too soon if she woke in the middle of the night. She had a horrible time teaching herself to go back to sleep, because I would see her sit up and I would rush in to get her. We transitioned to a simple radio monitor to get away from seeing her and relying on knowing her cries and letting her sleep! Well when BK#2 came along I thought I was losing my mind with the radio one! Once the newborn cry was gone it was so hard to distinguish between the two children’s noises. They are siblings and they sound A LOT alike! Not only that, but I was so paranoid! Was BK#1 silently climbing out of her crib? Is BK#2 still breathing? Is he standing and trying to climb out too??? Bk#2 is nicknamed “Monkey” because he is way ahead of the game when it comes to moving. He’s 10 month old and can climb stairs, is trying to walk, and can just about pull himself up on the couch.gebaby

This is the GE Monitor system that we have right now. It’s really nice, but I am always looking for better, because I have yet to find the PERFECT set.

{If you have one you LOVE and have zero issues feel free to share!}

So sanity, parents. Save. Your. Sanity.

 

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This isn’t essential, but purposeful play with dolls gave BK#1 and idea of what was to come. I believe it truly helped with our smooth transition. 140545_0000.jpgBaby Stella is the current favorite!

 

 

 

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Do you carry your toddler up the stairs most of the time? Do you have every single entry way gated off? Do you always carry in parking lots? Does your toddler understand the word ‘patience’ and actively use it/ talk about using patience?b3f0a99d9292dfc4c41ccb3f89efeb91

Toddler –Proof an area.

13971309.jpgWe actually have multiple places that I can leave BK#1, with a gate on the door, and not worry about her hurting herself. Her bedroom is absolutely her space, and there’s nothing she can hurt herself on, and the same with the play room. If you don’t have the space I really encourage you to do this. You will need to get a shower, get the mail, take the dogs out, and make a phone call, etc. without a toddler trying to get your attention and without worrying about what they are getting into.

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Just start out with one and get a system down. Don’t try and have a bag for both kids. I felt like I still needed all the essentials for BK#1, and in reality you just need a diaper and a change of clothes. Don’t overdo it and cause yourself unnecessary stress. You can read more about what I put in my diaper bag here.

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cea8ff434961f0508ea09cec8b90711dBefore baby number two arrives set up stations around the house to keep essentials ready for quick access.  I have a basket or storage solution for diapering, lunch items, bottles, breast pump accessories, and snacks. Not only does it make the day go smoother, it makes it easier for DH or babysitters.

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Have a pack n play, swing, bouncy seat, or whatever floats your fancy set up in multiple areas of your house. Speaking from experience, there will be many times you will be casually canoodling the newborn and the toddler will spill a bottle of water everywhere, or knock something down, need a diaper change, and or just make a disaster of your house. There will be no time to run a baby to the next room to the swing, you will need SAFE places to leave the baby. Not only for toddler disasters, but just to do normal things. Ya know, like peeing.

 

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Eventually you will turn on Daniel flipping Tiger, put the baby in the saucer, and hide in the kitchen to drink your (hot)coffee in 5 minutes of quiet. If you say you don’t (or you won’t) then you’re in denial/lying.join-daniel-tiger-image.png

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FindingRest1You’re going to be sleep deprived, and just plain crazy some days. I promise you will forget to call someone, pay a bill, buy a gift, or even put pants on if there weren’t bright pink Post-its plastered all over your house. Let’s be honest…that last one is purely optional.

 

 

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Get the baby on a nap schedulewith the toddler as soon as possible. My 12:30pm nap is when I get 80% of my housework done. Seriously, it’s probably the best thing I did!

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I promise it really is okay to let friends and family help you. Learn how to ask for it, and learn how to accept it. It makes a huge difference to have a good go-to list when you are at your wits end and the toddler just needs to get out of the house.

 

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However this works into your day be sure to do it. It can be as simple as story time.

Husband time!

 

871c1aff5a1234e86739aa1a0ace466bI try really hard to leave my evenings for my DH. Even if things aren’t done I tend to leave them for the next day, so that when the babies are in bed I am actively and consciously spending time with him. It’s so easy to spend your days throwing everything into two babies, and then just shutting down the second there is silence. Don’t forget that he still needs you too.

 

BurritoBuzzBK#2Two under two has been such a blessing, and really more fun than I can even describe. Even with all of these things, I will tell you your kitchen won’t be perfect, laundry is always going to need washed, toys are always everywhere.

Chill out! It will get easier and less messy some day!

Do you have two under two? Do you do something that I don’t? What else can I be doing to save my sanity?!?!?

 ~Amanda

 

 

 

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Boobie Beads {Review}

We were so thrilled to get a few products sent to us from Boobie Beads to review!

IMG_7590My son is almost 9 months old, and is just now breaking his first tooth through. He’s been a teething, drooling machine lately. He chews on everything in sight, whether it’s edible, safe, or clean… it doesn’t matter to him. So I always try to provide him with the appropriate baby products to chomp on.

Boobie Beads, Ltd. provides 100% food based silicon teething necklaces and product that are BPA and toxin free. They are safe and one size fits all. Based out of the UK, this mom of 3 had the great idea to manufacture a product that little ones could grab and chew on any time, but especially when they are close to their mommas during holding/feeding.

My little guy LOVED the necklace. He seriously can’t get enough of it. My necklace has several large beads, knotted around safe string. He’s played with it each time he’s been fed, and even when I’ve just been carrying him around. I wear my little guy all the time, so he’s close to me often and really loves to have something to chew on. The necklace has a safety release toggle, making it practical for an infant. IMG_7524

They also make pacifier (dummy) clips. While I love the concept of the clip, my baby enjoyed holding it and chewing on it without it being clipped on. None of my pacifiers actually worked with the clip, but all of my teethers do. I added one of the teethers on, and Lucas has been chomping on it like crazy. The clip on this could use some work: My son easily removed this several times over, leaving the sharp clip edges open and the thought of him getting his fingers smashed in there scared me a bit. A few small clip modifications would make this safer (I’d recommend a typical metal clip with nothing on top of it. The star provided leverage for him to grab and actually open the plastic clip.)

Both were easy to clean. I rinsed them and washed them with Dawn, and left them in the open air to dry.

Overall, a good product. My son really loves the necklace, and I’d recommend it to moms with teething/grabby babies.

IMG_7539I think the clip will need some work, but with a few changes it will be more practical.

Thanks to Boobie Beads for the product!

-Katie

**Burrito Buzz received this product at low or no cost for the purpose of review or testing. No compensation for a positive review was provided. All product reviews are based 100% off of our personal experiences with a product and we never guarantee a positive review.**

Tips and Tricks for the Baby Wearing Beginner

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There are so many reasons to love wearing your babies. You may want to leave that bulky stroller at home or go somewhere a stroller won’t go, you may like rocking your baby to sleep and want to make it easier, you may like to get things done while keeping your baby happy and seeing what’s going on, or you may just love keeping your baby close. Or, like me, you may have  babies that just refuse to be put down some days.

Enter babywearing! Whether you do it all day, every day or only a few times before your child outgrows it, it can be a little overwhelming when you are looking at all the different types of carriers while also memorizing all of the safety measures. So I thought I would share a few of the highlights for those of you that are new to baby wearing and aren’t sure where to start! A lot of these are really important and while I am not an “expert” on baby wearing, these are simple, yet serious to wearing your baby in a way that is healthy and safe for both of you!

1.Research before you buy.

Baby wearing can become sort of a fad, especially when people get swept up in certain brands etc.! I am constantly seeing pictures on Instagram and Pinterest of moms wearing their babies in a popular wrap or carrier, but not in a safe way. Again, I’m no expert on baby wearing, but did a lot of research before wearing my baby for the first time and I feel that that was so important. I was able to get many opinions, research stories, and read up on the most important safety measures to take with each type of carrier. In the same way that a first-time parent should read how to appropriately put together a crib or install a car seat, it’s important to read up on the safest way to carry for both the parent and the baby.

2. Know your carrier.c609234b5194ee1709069ddccbf07f54

There are so many carriers on the market that it can be confusing. Think about for how long and how often you want to wear your baby, as well as whether you are likely to feel confident wrapping up a carrier or have a preference for buckles or rings. There is a good breakdown of the types of carriers here.

3.Safety first!

Always, always, always babywear safely! Follow the TICKS guidelines.

Tight. Baby should be close to your body not dangling with loose fabric.

In view at all times. This is for younger babies in front carriers. Make sure they are not under layers of fabric where you can’t see them.

Close enough to kiss. Keep your baby’s head close to your chin. If your baby sits too low it can be really easy for their breathing to get blocked and is also really terrible for your back! If you have your baby wrapped and a person standing in front of you can’t see the baby’s head, then that is also a pretty good clue that you have wrapped/carried too low.

Keep the chin off the chest. Make sure baby’s head is not being forced to curl down onto it’s chest which can restrict breathing. This is mainly important to watch for when carrying a newborn that doesn’t have any head control yet. If they do have their chin on their chest it means that their airway is smaller than it should be, so make sure that baby is lifted and resting their head comfortably.

Supported back. For both the carrier and the baby.

4.Be sure the baby’s legs are in an “M” Shape.

I have found that there are pretty mixed opinions when it comes to carrying a newborn (mainly in a wrap), this tip particularly applies as baby starts to grow. For us, I decided to skip the “newborn carry” after a week or so and move straight to the “classic carry.” The newborn carry is basically when you bend your newborn’s knees before placing them in the wrap and their legs stay in the wrap so that they look like a frog. Recently, I have read a lot that carrying like this is not the healthiest way for baby and can actually contribute to hip dysplasia. I also want to mention, that the classic carry seems much easier to get used to, especially because once you learn how to do it quickly and efficiently, you don’t have to learn again–baby will always be carried this way.

5.Have Patience.

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When it comes to wraps and even some SSC, there is a learning curve. Don’t expect to be able to master every carry on your first try. I have to stop and re adjust several times while wrapping. Luckily, my babies love it and have patience with me while I learn new carries. Front carries are the easiest to master, so start there.

6.Youtube

Look on You Tube. There are hundreds of videos showing different types of carriers being used and the easiest way to get them on and off. Type in the brand you have or want to look at and I promise you will find a ton of how-to’s!

7.Happy Baby

The first time you use a carrier make sure your baby is happy! Trying to figure out a back carry with a size 7 wrap for the first time with teething toddler who hasn’t had her nap spells disaster and won’t leave either of you with a good feeling about it.

8.Talk to someone who has done it before

Chances are you know someone who has more than one carrier and would be happy to show you some tips. People who love babywearing usually want to share the joy (hence why I’m blogging here).

9.Enjoy it!

Don’t let anyone tell you that you are coddling or spoiling your child. There is nothing wrong with doing something that keeps your baby happy and content. This usually keeps Mama happy and content! You can get all of your housework or shopping done, or play with older siblings while a baby naps in the carrier. You can leave the stoller at home when you travel and you can enjoy more time smooching the top of your baby’s head. You won’t be wearing them in a sling to school. Promise.

10. Babywearing isn’t for everyone.f3c5b20a729c44b4f4868d99e8fd648e

Variety is the spice of life, right? Not everyone in the world is going to love wearing their baby. And some people may need to try a few different kinds before deciding on one that will be their go-to. But if you or your baby just aren’t into it, that’s okay!

Hopefully these little tidbits are helpful and makes wearing your baby a fun and easy learning experience.

~Amanda

Helpful Blog Abbreviations

GENERAL

AB- Abortion

AD- Adoptive Parent

AF- Aunt Flo (Period)

AP- Attachment Parenting

BBS- Boobs

BC- Birth Control

BCP- Birth Control Pills

BD- Baby Dancing (Sex)

BF- Breast Feed

BF- Biological Father

BG- Blood Glucose

BH- Braxton Hicks

BIL- Brother In Law

BM- Breast Milk

BMom- Biological Mother

BTDT- Been There Done That

BTW- By The Way

B/W- Blood Work

CIO- Cry It Out

CS- Cesarian Section

DC- Daycare

DD- Dear Daughter

D&E- Dilation & Evacuation

DH- Dear Husband

DF- Dear Fiance

DOB- Date Of Birth

DR- Delivery Room

DS- Dear Son

DTD- Do The Deed

DW- Dear Wife

Dx- Diagnosis

FC- Foster Care

EDD- Estimated Due Date

Endo- Endometriosis

FF- Formula Feeding

FIL- Father In Law

FOC- Father Of Child

FRED- First Response Early Detection (Pee Stick)

FT- Full Time

FTM- First Time Mom

FTR- For The Record

FWIW- For What Its Worth

FYI- For Your Information

GA- Gestational Age

GMTA- Great Minds Think Alike

GOAT- Said when member has read all previous responses before commenting

GTT- Glucose Tolerance Test

HPT- Home Pregnancy Test

HIPPO- Said when member is responding without reading previous responses

HTH- Hope This Helps

IMO- In My Opinion

IRL- In Real Life

JK- Just Kidding

L&D- Labor & Delivery

LDO- Long Distance Relationship

LO- Little One

LOL- Laughing Out Loud

MSM- Main Stream Media

MC- Miscarriage

MIL- Mother In Law

ML- Maternity Leave

MM- Mothers Milk

NMS- Not My Style

NP- No Problem

O- Ovulation

O’d- Ovulated

OP- Original Poster

OT- Off Topic

OTOH- On The Other Hand

PG- Pregnancy

POAS- Peed On A Stick

Rx- Prescription

SAB- Spontaneous Abortion

SAHD- Stay At Home Dad

SAHM- Stay At Home Mom

SAHP- Stay At Home Parent

SD- Sperm Donor

SIL- Sister In Law

SO- Significant Other

T&T- Tried & Tested

TIA- Thanks In Advance

TMI- Too Much Information

US- Ultrasound

UTI- Urinary Tract Infection

V- Vasectomy

VBAC- Vaginal Birth After Cesarian

WAH- Work At Home

WOH- Work Out of Home

YI- Yeast Infection

 

BABY WEARING

DH- Double Hammock

FWCC- Front Wrap Cross Carry

MT- Mei Tai

Rebozo- Type of Wrap

 

INFERTILITY

2WW- Two Week Wait (Post Ovulation Until Beta)

ART- Assistive Reproductive Technologies

BBT- Basal Body Temperature

BFN- Big Fat Negative

BFP- Big Fat Positive

CD- Cycle Day

CF- Cervical Fluid

CM- Cervical Mucus

DPO- Days Past Ovulation

GS- Gestational Surrogate

IC- Incompetent Cervix

IF- Infertility

IUI- Intrauterine Insemination

IVF- In Vitro Fertilization

LMP- Last Menstrual Period

LP- Luteal Phase

OPK- Ovulation Predictor Kit

RE- Reproductive Endocrinologist

SA- Semen Analysis

S/B- Still Birth

TS- Traditional Surrogate

TTC- Trying To Conceive

Sources:

www.babycenter.com

www.stirrup-queens.com

www.thebabywebsite.com

http://www.babymed.com