BottomZz Up Potty Training Kit {Review}

When we got the opportunity to review this product, I was super happy! C is what I like to call half potty trained. He will use the potty all day long if he is running around the house naked and if we’re out to dinner at a restaurant, he will ask to go potty. But our problem arises while at home, at the park, or anywhere else where is he preoccupied and focused on playing and having fun while wearing anything, a diaper, pull up, or underwear.

We’ve tried candy.
We’ve tried stickers.
We’ve tried ice cream.
We’ve tried what seems like everything.

He’s just not catching on. Part of it is lack of consistency on my part I am sure. Part of it is the week on/week off custody and his dad allowing him to still use diapers because it’s more convenient than having to do laundry in his eyes.

That’s where BottomZz Up come in.

download.pngThis system is amazing. Now don’t get me wrong, I had my issues with it and I will explain them in a second, but overall, fantastic! Is C 100% potty trained after a week with the system? No. Was there progress made? Yes.

Essentially what you’re looking at is the cloth diaper of the potty training world. The system offers cloth, washable, reusable training pants with an absorbent liner. The starter kit comes with a potty chart, stickers, a certificate, and a travel bag.

The Opening for the Liner. There is almost no wiggle room. I found that I was unable to get the liner in so it laid flat as I was unable to get my hand in to grab the other side and pull it through.

Sizing. C is an average sized toddler and I felt these were extremely small in the leg openings. This was part of the reason I couldn’t be consistent with him wearing them 24/7. They were far too tight on his thighs and he told me they were hurting him. When I took them off, he had pretty significant red lines where they were. There is no option (that I have found) with larger sizes when it comes to ordering.

Price. I think the pricing is a little steep. A box of 10 refill liners is almost $18 and a package of 3 underwear is nearly $50. If you want the whole starter kit, you would be looking at almost $100, but you only get 6 inserts. So automatically plan for another $18 purchase for more liners.

Reusable. I have a whole cloth diaper stash that I had for C and will use again for the next baby, whenever that may be. Not having to run to the store when you “run out” of diapers, pull up, etc., is super convenient.

Chemical free. 100% cotton undies and chemical free liners make it as safe and eco-friendly as it getsdownload-1Now, C peed in them the first time and realized that it was wet as it held the moisture in the underwear. We started bribing him with the stickers and he began going potty on the toilet. He kept them on during nap time and woke up soaking wet as they had leaked on the inner thighs. He had another accident in which they leaked in the inner thigh area too. We made due while at home, but I didn’t want to risk out in public with him in them if they were leaking. They do have a caveat on their site stating they may leak when sitting down, however, neither of the leaks were due to him sitting. But again, accidents happen. I think it has to do with the small gap between the fabric and the liner.

I think an All-In-One system would be a great change for BottomZz Up. Instead of having a removable liner, especially since you have to wash the underwear anyways, sandwiching the liner permanently between the fabric would possibly help stop the leaks and there would be no more struggle in trying to get the liner in.

Overall, I have to say 3 out of 5 stars for BottomZz Up. Innovative, semi-successful for potty training, but high in price and could use some tweaking when it comes to the liner. I would love to see some other sizing options!

– Kirstyn

**Burrito Buzz received this product at low or no cost for the purpose of review or testing. No compensation for a positive review was provided. All product reviews are based 100% off of our personal experiences and we never guarantee a positive review.**

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The Poo Poo Fairy {Review}

As the mother of a stubborn toddler, I can assure you that there is absolutely nothing more frustrating than potty training a child. Last May, we started training my then almost three year old. She was doing great until she started to refuse going poop andFullSizeRender (11) became very constipated. For a week she would just lay down on the couch or her bed and wouldn’t move (I don’t blame her, ouch!). After that we decided to take a break, however we were desperate to get her trained because she was to start preschool that fall and had to be potty trained. So that August we started trying again but didn’t push the pooping part. She did so good with peeing and was completely potty trained day and night by November. But when it came to pooping, she said she was scared that it would hurt. We assured her many, many times that it wouldn’t hurt but she still would only poop in a Pull Up. At that point, I was fine with that because I didn’t want to go through her being constipated again. Well, come December we had to take a trip to the ER for an enema because her bowels were so compacted.

Fast forward to a year later, she’s still pooping in a Pull Up! I’m sure this is normal and I shouldn’t worry (I’m not worried, I just don’t want to change her poopy Pull Ups anymore, I swear it’s like changing a grown adult’s pants), but I just want to be done with the Pull Ups. I was looking for advice on Google when I came across a new product that I had to try. I was willing to try anything at this point (nothing, not even bribing her with anything she wanted worked). It’s book and doll set called The Poo Poo Fairy. It works along the same lines as the Tooth Fairy. The Poo Poo Fairy, Pfaityaulina, leaves a gift for the potty training child ones he or she goes potty. The doll works as a sort potty buddy, helping your little one go potty, as she does in the book, hence the title “The Poo Poo Fairy”.

The book is adorable! My daughter seemed to really enjoy it and wouldn’t put down her new Paulina doll. Once we read the story together, I further explained that Paulina would help her go poop on the potty and she would then bring a gift for her once she went. She got very excited and seemed genuinely ready to go poop on the potty! Finally! So we took a trip to the bathroom where she sat for 15 minutes (she did go pee) but no poop.  I was totally fine with it because before she would throw crazy tantrums if I so much as asked her to go poop on the potty. That’s progress, people!

It’s been a week and she has yet to actually go poop on the potty but she will sit on the toilet when she says she has to go (she then says she’s scared to go). I do believe thatFullSizeRender (12) Paulina and her book are the reasons she even attempts to go on the potty which is a huge, welcomed change! I have faith that she will soon use the potty to go number one and number two thanks to Paulina. I also think her intense stubbornness has something to do with her not wanting to go but we’re slowly breaking down that wall. It may be better for younger children who are just beginning to potty train. It would be a great way to introduce the potty! I give this product 4.5 out of 5 stars, only because she has yet go number two, but I know she will very soon! I have very high hopes that she won’t be graduating high school, still pooping in a Pull Up!

Purchase The Poo Poo Fairy box set (book + Paulina doll) here!

Follow Paulina on Instagram @Paulina.thepoopoofairy, on Twitter at @poopoofairy and on Facebook at The Poo Poo Fairy!

– Casey

**Burrito Buzz received this product at low or no cost for the purpose of review or testing. No compensation for a positive review was provided. All product reviews are based 100% off of our personal experiences and we never guarantee a positive review.**

Two Under Two. Tips and Tricks

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I can’t even begin to tell you how many times people ask me “How do you do it?”

My answer is usually “Lots of patience and love”.

While that is true, we have a pretty regimented life. I am a stay at home mom  while my DH works night. I HAVE to keeps all my ducks in a row or it will just be pure chaos.  Two under two is not for the faint of heart. You learn so much more than you ever thought possible, and it almost hurts how much you can love two little babies at one time!

Planning on “Baby bunching”? Found yourself Pregnant 8 months after your first birth, like me? I am 10 months in now, and I have to share some of the things that just get you through your day-to-day life!

I hope it helps! I am sure I will come back and add more in a few months since the babies are always changing…

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freeshippingI use Target.com with my Red card, and I get free shipping, but  there are TONS of other options! AmazonFamily, Amazon Prime, Diapers.com <<, Just to name a few.  I never did it with BK#1, but a month or so after BK#2 came along I found out that I could order diapers with no shipping with my Red card. It is seriously the best thing ever, and eliminates the extra trip because you forgot about opening the last pack of diapers. Seriously, diapers at your doorstep! Now if I could only train the post man to leave the box and back away quietly……

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The schedule that you make will change because of feedings, diaper blow-outs, meltdowns, the end of the world, and ya know pretty much anything. I have found that being able to tell BK#1 what is going to happen next and reminding her of her day to day activities grounds her and helps her feel like she is in control.

 

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If your child isn’t ready and not even interested, don’t sweat it. I introduced it pretty young with BK#1 but didn’t start making it a regular and consistent thing until she was around 2, and it has been pretty impossible. It never fails every time I sit down to nurse BK#2,  finally get him asleep, or I have him in the bath and she is gated in her room that she will holler “Mommyyy potty!!” Better yet BK#1 crawling through an accident that you didn’t know existed until you bend down to pick him up…….

 

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When I was around five months pregnant I un-boxed the baby swing, pack n play, changing table etc. I wanted her to get used things that were not hers, and not only not hers, but she was not allowed to touch. It didn’t totally eliminate her pushing on the swing when he was in it, or trying to see over the pack n play edge, but it certainly started the communication early. She was very aware of “ Only for baby” ,  “Very gentle” , and “Be careful” way before there was even a baby in the gear.

 

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imagesBIZZSE10Baby gear is pretty bulky, and I tried my hardest not to have double of everything! For example: We transitioned into a booster seat instead of using the high chair, to conserve space. Another item that we started transitioning out of was the binky. We didn’t completely take it away, but it was no longer anywhere but her bed. We did it for a lot of reasons, but mostly to make it as easy as possible when she saw her baby brother with one. When it was time to get rid of it completely it really wasn’t a huge deal, thankfully!

 

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I know some people can’t because of their backs, or just don’t chose to because they feel it is “babying and spoiling your child” when you carry a toddler. I will tell you that wearing my toddler has seriously saved my sanity. If you don’t already have one get a soft structured carrier or wrap and start putting that baby on your back! Your toddler needs to feel special and close to you too, and it is seriously the easiest way to do just that. Even if you hand the carrier to your DH when he is heading out to rake leaves, I promise your toddler will be calmer and you will have a lot more hair on your head.

Don’t know how?

I pretty much taught myself how with youtube videos! I will link a good one below for you. It looks a littler awkward, and takes practice to do alone, but its worth it.

** She is going a little slower than you normally would to show steps…..

Wrapyouinlove.com is a great resource for tutorials and BabyWearing Education, if you need more info!

 

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Okay, so I am a little back and forth on the topic of baby monitors. I think they are essential to get things done while the babies are sleeping, but we had a video monitor with BK#1 and I made a horrible habit of getting her way too soon if she woke in the middle of the night. She had a horrible time teaching herself to go back to sleep, because I would see her sit up and I would rush in to get her. We transitioned to a simple radio monitor to get away from seeing her and relying on knowing her cries and letting her sleep! Well when BK#2 came along I thought I was losing my mind with the radio one! Once the newborn cry was gone it was so hard to distinguish between the two children’s noises. They are siblings and they sound A LOT alike! Not only that, but I was so paranoid! Was BK#1 silently climbing out of her crib? Is BK#2 still breathing? Is he standing and trying to climb out too??? Bk#2 is nicknamed “Monkey” because he is way ahead of the game when it comes to moving. He’s 10 month old and can climb stairs, is trying to walk, and can just about pull himself up on the couch.gebaby

This is the GE Monitor system that we have right now. It’s really nice, but I am always looking for better, because I have yet to find the PERFECT set.

{If you have one you LOVE and have zero issues feel free to share!}

So sanity, parents. Save. Your. Sanity.

 

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This isn’t essential, but purposeful play with dolls gave BK#1 and idea of what was to come. I believe it truly helped with our smooth transition. 140545_0000.jpgBaby Stella is the current favorite!

 

 

 

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Do you carry your toddler up the stairs most of the time? Do you have every single entry way gated off? Do you always carry in parking lots? Does your toddler understand the word ‘patience’ and actively use it/ talk about using patience?b3f0a99d9292dfc4c41ccb3f89efeb91

Toddler –Proof an area.

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Just start out with one and get a system down. Don’t try and have a bag for both kids. I felt like I still needed all the essentials for BK#1, and in reality you just need a diaper and a change of clothes. Don’t overdo it and cause yourself unnecessary stress. You can read more about what I put in my diaper bag here.

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cea8ff434961f0508ea09cec8b90711dBefore baby number two arrives set up stations around the house to keep essentials ready for quick access.  I have a basket or storage solution for diapering, lunch items, bottles, breast pump accessories, and snacks. Not only does it make the day go smoother, it makes it easier for DH or babysitters.

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Have a pack n play, swing, bouncy seat, or whatever floats your fancy set up in multiple areas of your house. Speaking from experience, there will be many times you will be casually canoodling the newborn and the toddler will spill a bottle of water everywhere, or knock something down, need a diaper change, and or just make a disaster of your house. There will be no time to run a baby to the next room to the swing, you will need SAFE places to leave the baby. Not only for toddler disasters, but just to do normal things. Ya know, like peeing.

 

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Eventually you will turn on Daniel flipping Tiger, put the baby in the saucer, and hide in the kitchen to drink your (hot)coffee in 5 minutes of quiet. If you say you don’t (or you won’t) then you’re in denial/lying.join-daniel-tiger-image.png

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FindingRest1You’re going to be sleep deprived, and just plain crazy some days. I promise you will forget to call someone, pay a bill, buy a gift, or even put pants on if there weren’t bright pink Post-its plastered all over your house. Let’s be honest…that last one is purely optional.

 

 

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Get the baby on a nap schedulewith the toddler as soon as possible. My 12:30pm nap is when I get 80% of my housework done. Seriously, it’s probably the best thing I did!

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I promise it really is okay to let friends and family help you. Learn how to ask for it, and learn how to accept it. It makes a huge difference to have a good go-to list when you are at your wits end and the toddler just needs to get out of the house.

 

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However this works into your day be sure to do it. It can be as simple as story time.

Husband time!

 

871c1aff5a1234e86739aa1a0ace466bI try really hard to leave my evenings for my DH. Even if things aren’t done I tend to leave them for the next day, so that when the babies are in bed I am actively and consciously spending time with him. It’s so easy to spend your days throwing everything into two babies, and then just shutting down the second there is silence. Don’t forget that he still needs you too.

 

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Chill out! It will get easier and less messy some day!

Do you have two under two? Do you do something that I don’t? What else can I be doing to save my sanity?!?!?

 ~Amanda

 

 

 

Honey Huggers {Product review}

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The moms here at BurritoBuzz recently connected with Honey Huggers, and two of us tried out their padded leg warmers. You can find them on social media or their website. They have man different styles, and a few different products to choose from.

 

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Pros: These padded leg warmers are ADORABLE! All of the patterns you can choose from are pretty stinkin’ cute, and I would have been happy with any of them! They are very soft and stretchy, and don’t need worn in to be comfortable for your baby.

Most of the patterns offered are gender neutral, so they’re perfect for hand-me-downs.

Made in the USA!

Fit is great for slender babies.

They wash and dry very nicely. They kept their shape and didn’t fade.

One of the little babes who tried out this product isn’t quite crawling, but the little padded knees on the Honey Huggers are providing him enough traction to be up on his knees longer before he collapses. He should be crawling before we know it with their help!

 

Cons:  When we were talking with Honey Huggers they were talking about adding another size, and we believe that is a must! Even though they stretch and you can make them fit, it’s not a comfortable fit. cee5b2db8e3f850f535ff95cac261e91_1024x1024.jpgThey slide down to the baby’s knees the second they start crawling, if you have a larger baby. We kind of wish the padded knees could just be added to a pair of pants for our chunky babies!

Several of us mommies have recently tackled potty training with our little ones or are doing it presently. If Honey Huggers does add another bigger size of leg warmer, it’d be perfect for our toddlers too! Not having worry about getting pants down with undies to go potty would be really nice! Right now, its just too cold to let them go in their birthday suit.

Overall, we give this product 3 out of 5 stars. We think it’s a great idea for new baby crawlers out there, but has room for improvement with the sizing. One thing is for sure: they’re super cute!

 

The Honey Huggers website also offers leg warmers without the pads, bibdanas, and bundles with both. Right now the unpadded leg warmers are only $6!HoneyHuggersGoogleInstadeal_330e1f8f-0e8a-47db-ba95-84560ae76896_1024x1024.jpg

 

-Amanda & Megan

 

 

**Burrito Buzz received this product at low or no cost for the purpose of review or testing. No compensation for a positive review was provided. All product reviews are based 100% off of our personal experiences with a product and we never guarantee a positive review.**

“Pee Pee in The Potty, Pee Pee in The Potty”….My not so silent chant.

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I am a mom who likes to do a lot of reading. Pinterest is my best friend during naptime. (So. Many. Resources!) But, I have yet to find a fool-proof way to potty train. I have gotten advice from family and friends (both welcomed and not-so-welcomed), and have read way too many blog posts with step-by-step ways to get it done. I had it in my head that it would be easy! Just a few days and Brava, she would get it!

WRONG!!!!

I read a post titled “Potty Train in 3 Days” HA! I will link it here  if you would like to try it. But my very advanced 18 month old just wasn’t having it! She literally would scream and shake when she had an accident. The poor thing was so scared. 3 days of my precious baby scared and screaming all day. I couldn’t take it anymore. She obviously was not ready despite all the readiness signs { < great article about what doctors want you to know about potty training} she was showing. BK#1 was literally hiding and squatting every time she went in her diaper, and then coming to me and saying “poop”. Like, really kid?!?!? Just go sit on that green froggy potty over there!

Thankfully one of our fellow bloggers has babies just about the same age as me and posted this!  I no longer felt like I was crazy, and alone! I am not the only one shaking my head, and cleaning up pee off of my hardwood floors! Seriously someone, just tell me how you did it! Tell me your secret!

I will tell you their secret!

THERE IS NONE!

Every single child is different! Some kids get it, and some don’t!

There is a fine line of discipline and “I am the parent and we need to do this, whether you like it or not”, and breaking their spirit. I think as a parent that is my greatest fear! We decided to stop potty training, because she obviously wasn’t ready, and I didn’t want to scar her!  photo2.jpg

Discipline is so hard! Every parent has come from different homes, and inevitably has different views and stances, whether you know it or not. You may think you are on the same page about parenting, until you realize that you really might not be. One parent might be a little more patient with scrubbing poopy carpet than the other! THAT IS OK! Just because one of you deal with certain situations better than the other, doesn’t mean that you’re a bad parent, or not doing something right.

So, before you start potty training, sit down with your SO and talk about your expectations for EACH OTHER. I promise, that this will be the best piece of advice you can find when it comes to potty training! If there is more than one adult in the home, you have to agree on what is going to happen, and how you will handle certain situations.

We are now really facing potty training head on now! BK#1 will be 2 next month, and we want her well on her way to no more diapers! And, for the love of God I am sick of changing her tush!

I thought I would share some tips and advice that I have found along the way that seem to be helping us. She is not potty trained yet, and for those of you who did it with your kids in 3 days: I applaud you! It simply has not been that easy with our stubborn one. It is taking a lot of TIME and WORK!

I hope my late night binging on The Mindy Project for sanity and comic relief, and searching for answers helps you, too…

***Except for the first, none of these are in a specific order! Just a list of what we are doing!***

  • First,read   up on your toddler. Know the facts! Know what is going on in their tiny bodies and learn how they work. It will help you, if you completely understand bowl control capabilities, attitude, etc.
  • Demonstrate. From the time that BK#1 could walk she followed me to the bathroom. Annoying as it may be, I let her. They have to see what is going on. It’s even more fun now, because she narrates everything…..

 

  • Gerber Training Pants. photo3 I have found that BK#1 responds to these the best. They are padded and have a plastic layer, so she can wear pants and feels when she goes a little, and then tries to rush to the bathroom. She absolutely hates getting her panties wet! (Still screams and cries when that happens.) I use that to my advantage though! During nap time she tends keep her pull up dry, because I put her panties over top of them. “No pee pee on the panties”

 

  • Panties and Pull ups.  You will see a lot of different opinions on if you should use pull ups or not. We do both. During the day she is just in undies and at nap and bed she has a pull up on. It’s for my sanity really. Am I making it worse? Or am I helping her? Not quite sure of the answer, but it is what works for us. Make a big deal of the panties! Let them pick them, and or pick ones that you know they will be excited about! We don’t do a lot of cartoons/ characters in our house, so shopping for them was kinda hard. But BK#1 is really into shapes lately and we found some pink stars and just simple designs, and she likes those. They make them with every on them lately, seriously! You name the cartoon, there are underwear with the character on it. 

 

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We bought this one and BK#1 loved it! Get the potty well in advance, and let your toddler get all the playing out of their system. Let them play with it, carry it around, put toys in it etc., before you are ready to potty train. That way you wont have a potty full of pee being carried across the house, because they want the potty in the living room….. When you get a seat to go on the actual toilet, get the ones that are one piece! The ones that are a cushion in between plastic get GROSS! This one smells, and you just can’t clean it well, unless you dunk it in bleach. 

  • Flash cards.ABC’s, 123’s, shapes, and colors! It’s a great time to bond and teach! They have to sit still! Take advantage of that one on one time! Again, it’s another distraction so they relax
  • Drinks.I have been doubling her water intake She probably feels a little crazy, but I am trying to keep her bladder full and teaching her what that feeling means!
  • Gate in an easy to clean area.  A lot of accidents happen. A LOT. Just know thaphoto6t going into it. Thankfully we have a bathroom right off the kitchen, so we have been spending a lot of time in there!
  • Use a timer.Pick a small amount of time and set the timer to take your toddler to the bathroom. Whether they go or not. We set one for every 30 min. They have a ton of great apps but we use the Pull Ups app  There is a game to play when they go.

UPDATE: While this app is great, it does freeze and close without any notice, leaving you without a timer! It’s a really nice app, with alot of great features, but they have yet to fix the problem. So, I have just been using it as a potty time game reward.

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  • Lots of apples and fiber. Trying to encourage the need to poo! That takes a lot more time to do on the potty, but I am hoping that if we increase the frequency then it will be easier!
  • Nakey!  If she doesn’t want to put her undies back on, I don’t make her! She tends to just hang out on the potty.
  • Distractions for SiblingsTry and focus as much attention on your training toddler as you can. BK#2 just turned 6 months old and is loving his new walker, and I tend to put him in that if we have to spend more than a few seconds in the bathroom. Know your littles are safe. Older kids? Maybe get some new craft supplies, let them help you potty train, grandparents’ house for a few days? Try not to let them feel forgotten, even though a lot of their time will be taken away.
  • Stop training if they get a rash. This piece of advice is straight from our pediatrician. You don’t want them to associate pain with going potty. Unfortunately BK#1 was allergic to the pull ups we were using at nap time, and had a HORRIBLE reaction! We had to switch brands, but until her diaper area cleared up we had to put a halt to the potty. There is no way to keep on cream and keep it clean while naked or in undies.
  • Consistency! No matter what you do, stay consistent. Communicate the plan to your toddler, your spouse, grandparents, sitters etc. Don’t deviate! I feel like BK#1 is getting it, but has accidents when we wait too long, or go somewhere etc.

We are still working hard at it, but hope that this plan will lead to success. Don’t lose faith! You have a smart and adorable toddler and they won’t be going to college in their diaper.

~Amanda

 

 

 

 

Teach me how to Potty Train!

Our first born is a little girl who some believe is the smartest little toddler they’ve ever met. For the longest time I believed this too. Don’t most parents? We all want to paint this picture of our kids being the next President, Olympic athlete, or rocket scientist. Let’s be honest, our kids aren’t perfect, and they are more than likely not going to be any of those things. That is OKAY. They have their meltdowns, tantrums, and can be completely and utterly disgusting, that doesn’t mean they won’t amount to anything later in life.

I came to this realization that our little girl wasn’t the brightest toddler ever when it came time to potty train. It’s easy, right? Take her to the potty every 20-30 minutes, give her a prize if she goes, buy her cute new undies, sing a “potty song,” and dance after she flushes. ANYONE can do that, right?

Wrong.

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We thought we would get a “head start” last winter while I was expecting baby #2 and we had a long weekend at home together to try to potty train our little 20 month old. We spent two solid days with her barricaded in the kitchen on the linoleum. Just her, Mommy, Daddy, and the potty. The cat wanted nothing to do with our little experiment. We had her wear cute new Minnie Mouse underwear, bought treats, and had the coolest potty for her to go on. She didn’t get it. She peed while sitting on my husband’s lap and didn’t care that she was standing in the middle of her very own puddle. She didn’t tell us when she went in her pants, or that she was wet. Not even an “uh-oh.” After two solid days wasted, we stopped fighting her to do it.

After the “long weekend” massacre in the kitchen, we didn’t push the potty on her. We would mention it here and there, took her in with us when we would go, showed her cartoons about using the potty, but decided we would let her take the lead. She STILL never showed interest.

It came time for baby #2 to arrive in July of this year, and the older sister was still yet to be potty trained. This meant TWO kiddos in diapers, twice as many wipes, and a busier lifestyle to even attempt to potty train her in. How was this going to be possible? Well, it wasn’t. 4 months after baby #2 and big sister still hasn’t figured out the potty training gig. She’s 2 ½ now.

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Immediately we think we have failed as parents. How can we not potty train her by now? We even got more serious about it while I was on maternity leave. We had her “parent trained.” We could put her on the potty every 20-30 minutes all day long, she would go, and her pants would stay dry, but the minute we let her try to tell us, she was wet. She can’t grasp having to tell us when she has to go or even taking herself to the potty on her own. It hasn’t clicked yet. She will continue playing in wet pants or pee right in the middle of the bathroom floor, she doesn’t care.

As parents, we can’t help but to get frustrated. We want our kids to be the most intelligent little humans out there. She knows all the words to “Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star,” can tell us her ABCs, but can’t remember to tell us when she has to pee? Come on! We get it stuck in our minds that a simple activity like potty training is going to shape our kiddos into who they will become as adults. If they aren’t potty trained by 2, then we’ve failed as parents.

Why was this my way of thinking?

Much like my previous blog, My Picky Toddler, potty training has taught me to accept that I am doing everything right for her and that eventually she will figure it out. Not every kid is the same and some kids just get things quicker than other kids. It doesn’t mean our kid is an idiot. It just means she’s not potty trained yet. She will be when she is ready.

For now, we are still not pushing the issue and we’re waiting until she shows us signs that she is ready to do it. It’s not worth our frustration to force it on her. It’ll happen someday and boy will we be ready with treats, undies, songs, and dances. Until then, I will look forward to the blog I can write about her actually being potty trained!

Do you have any tips that worked for you and your toddler when it came time to potty train?

-Megan